Re: Worries about my sexual life
Hi bro, I'm a young guy in my early 20s as well. Had an ex-gf and somewhat sexless relationship in the sense that we didn't do it much. I am biased here based on personal experience, so take this with a grain of salt, but I believe the main issue is usually on the girl's side, especially on the communication and/or initiation front. It's a two-hands-to-clap thing, especially when sex is more than just carnal exchange of desires, so don't be too hard on yourself.
You mentioned that you're addicted to pornography, which is definitely a major issue and has been studied to be linked to ED and delayed ejaculation etc. It would be best to quit. That said, a relationship takes two to tango, it's one thing that you're having issues but another entirely that there's little cooperation/encouragement on the partner's end.
On a separate issue, you mentioned about "fucking around". Honestly? Deep down, my parents raised me to be a man who is courteous and chivalrous, to treat girls well. But looking at our society, filled with superficiality and double standards, is morality and being grounded in one's principles even worth-while anymore? Is it better to just mess around regardless? Should you cheat on the side, especially if it might help you cope with some harsh stress in life? Maybe. I don't know the answers to these as I'm still "searching" for my goals. That said, I know for sure that it's one thing to be optimistic and another to be blindly idealistic. Seems like the reality for most, average SG guys (from people I've spoken to at least), sex life or relationship life for that matter, is bleak.
At least we've got each other 😎. Cheers bro!