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Old 08-06-2019, 01:58 PM
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Re: I'm addicted to women's company. Spend a lot every month :(

Actually, for most men (and women as well), one is not enough. You may be temporarily happy if you manage to land a chio babe, but with time, an itch will appear which you need to scratch. It's human nature. Which is why sex workers exist in most places, and why porn is popular (if you cannot bed another, even bedding one in fantasy will do), and why adultery is more common than most people think.
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Re: I'm addicted to women's company. Spend a lot every month :(

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Re: I'm addicted to women's company. Spend a lot every month :(

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I felt quite emotional after reading your advice. U are absolutely bro! I can't bring myself to like the 4/10 women who are interested in me. In the same way, none of those 7/10 syts will give me a chance. coz I'm simply not at their level

actually I noticed that the guys they choose are always quite high standards one - tall, above average looking and have a promising career like lawyer or SAF officer. these gals aren't exactly looking for rich men only. it's more like they want a trophy bf/husband that they can show off on their social media platform (FB, IG)
Its good that you realize this, because it also means you realize what you must do to change your life (if that is what you want).

I don't really agree with the second part though. It is not fair to call girls out on their preferences, because that is exactly what we are doing here right? If you have a choice between two prospective partners, both have good characters, similar interests/life goals, and treat you equally well, but one is physically attractive and the other is not. Be honest - who would you choose? This is life. People would go for the better option if they had a choice.

Also, its not like the eligible girls are always looking for the "trophy husbands" you speak of. Different folks different strokes - different people want different things. You just gotta keep an eye out for a suitable partner for yourself. Interim, keep on improving yourself so that the odds will be in your favor.

But hey like I said in my first post - at the end of the day, there is also nothing wrong with your current way of life. Less complications, less worries. There are pros and cons in every situation, and you don't necessarily need to find a female partner to live a happy, fulfilling life.

Good luck out there dude. Take care.
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Re: I'm addicted to women's company. Spend a lot every month :(

In the same way you are not attracted to 4/10 girls, girls would not be attracted to 4/10 guys. Think of it this way, technically, guys don’t have much to lose, except money and maybe emotions. But girls give up their bodies to you, so of course they would go for the bigger catch

Solution? If you are not a big catch physically, make up for it with something else. Money, personality, etc
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Re: I'm addicted to women's company. Spend a lot every month :(

I too can relate what you are going through because I am going through the same thoughts and stage in life right now.
I personally dont think that you should think that way that you are getting a cat150 to get over the reality that you cant get them in real life. For all we know, maybe you havent try doing it.
I am a millennial and I guess you are one too judging from you post (most likely close to my age). I am sure you are very aware that we are at the stage in life where most of my friends are either married and planning to, building a life towards their future, having babies and we are sort of still living the single, chiongster life. I assure my friends also ask me the same question and so I want to let you know that its perfectly FINE and NORMAL to chiong. For me, love, women, they are not a priority in my life right now and I dont want to tight myself down to one girl, I am still having fun!

Of course, if you want a chiobu for wife you have to work for it. This applies to any women you want to as a gf or wife, whether chio or not, just that maybe going for a 7/10 would take more effort then a 4/10 cause yes they have higher requirements and hurdles to overcome. Women in general are. Sometimes its actually less about looks and money and more about the personality and the life story that brings 2 together and I think love is much more then just dollars and looks. What you are concern and looking at are very superficial things that dont last and I think you shouldnt be too beat up on this.

Yes of course everyone has failure in life but its what you do and learn from the failure that make you a better person. Go improve yourself!

If you know your looks are not that great, start improving your body physique. Go to a gym, go to F45, go to those HIIT session where you can work out and meet tons of girls while exercising. Sure can strike up a convo one.
Join yoga class, join meetup , hobbies, and try to do something you are interested in. for all you know, you might meet you special someone there.
I think its more important to build your character and life,. This is far more attractive to girls then having money and looks. Its what you do with your life that matters the most. If SG dont have what you are looking for, go solo trip, travel alone and make friends during your travel! I have done that and I had made many female friends along the way, your life would be very interesting to maybe some from a non asian country! Even other Asean Countries!

As for chionging, i think its a form of release, of course every now and then when u feel the urge, you need it. Of course, the reason why i still chiong is because I still want to play and experience this side of the world. There are so many things I havent try and I dont think I will stop anytime soon hahha.

Most importantly, be happy with yourself. Once you make a decision dont regret. Chiong is not abnormal but of course, always exercise discreet.
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Old 09-06-2019, 04:32 PM
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Re: I'm addicted to women's company. Spend a lot every month :(

I was once addicted to finding FL and going to SPAs for a few years. However after an incident of getting scammed by a china FL, I have totally stop finding FL for around half a year

I guessed I got kinda sian of having sex liao or maybe I can't seem to find any FL that can sextisfy me

Honestly speaking, I feel quite free and relax right now because for me the constant yearning for a companionship takes a heavy toll on my stress level
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Re: I'm addicted to women's company. Spend a lot every month :(

Bro you are perfectly normal. Maybe you just haven't encounter the right one for you. I often see couples on the street where the hot girls get paired up with average or less than average looking guys.
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Re: I'm addicted to women's company. Spend a lot every month :(

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These comments really naive...so do you REALLY KNOW the situation of these HOT girls paired with avg guys could it be
1 she friendzoned him use him for free meals free emotional tampon
2 he rich and he PAYING her
3 She a prostitite
4 He a mangina, willing to offer EVERYTHING emotionlly, financially, carry her balls just so he can get sex 1x a month

there are plenty of possibilities that you as a outsider are not aware of and such posts like yourself are mere expressions of hope by a beta cuck
Agree, pretending you are perfect and not working extra to make yourself better is just pure laziness. Nobody is perfect, the smartest people continue to read more than they need, the richest people continue to make themselves richer.

So just make yourself better, physically, financially, anything, even if just a bit more. Don't stand still and wait for things to happen
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Re: I'm addicted to women's company. Spend a lot every month :(

Find the root cause of your problem. Could it be due to loneliness, emptiness, egoism, frustration, etc.
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Find the root cause of your problem. Could it be due to loneliness, emptiness, egoism, frustration, etc.
I think TS will take a long time to less frequent cat150, or go to never never land. Enough of these advices shit.

Some ppl, no matter how u advise, still the same. In the end, pocket run dry, lose job, start to borrow from frens money etc. Gambling also the same, teach how to properly gamble also no use. Some ppl win big money from casino, no money management, end up no win no lose, no food money, then start to borrow.

There is lorong 16 sg ktv, every hj is $30 to $50. But there is neverending swarms of girls(most of them looks cmi and not super chip). Do u need to really go there to experience it? End of the day $2k to $3k is gone(I dun know, u guys advise better)
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Re: I'm addicted to women's company. Spend a lot every month :(

i dont know why are there so many people who bombard TS for this. Personally i think i am no much from him.

after a while of chionging, it feels kinda meaningless. i feel that we are just trying to use physical touch to make up for the lack of emotional connection.

i also have alot of 4/10 expressing interest on me, just that, it is really hard to bring myself to be seeing her for the rest of my life. it is even harder too be sexual arouse by them. i feel that by accepting them , i will eventually cheat on them. so rather choose not to.

still trying really hard for that 6/10 or so to appear in my life that can click.

dont worry bro, just keep searching. someday we will find it
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Re: I'm addicted to women's company. Spend a lot every month :(

Hi sadloser, don't give up hope to find a life partner. life is unpredictable.

About spend money for short time with women, don't worry la. I married with kids still go.

Life is short, you know your own limits, so you handle it yourself la.

All the best and stay positive.
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Re: I'm addicted to women's company. Spend a lot every month :(

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I think TS will take a long time to less frequent cat150, or go to never never land. Enough of these advices shit.

Some ppl, no matter how u advise, still the same. In the end, pocket run dry, lose job, start to borrow from frens money etc. Gambling also the same, teach how to properly gamble also no use. Some ppl win big money from casino, no money management, end up no win no lose, no food money, then start to borrow.

There is lorong 16 sg ktv, every hj is $30 to $50. But there is neverending swarms of girls(most of them looks cmi and not super chip). Do u need to really go there to experience it? End of the day $2k to $3k is gone(I dun know, u guys advise better)
There is always a root cause whether you agree or not. It is true that some people will never change but there are also some who would if given an opportunity to and have people who are willing to listen to what exactly is bothering them.
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Re: I'm addicted to women's company. Spend a lot every month :(

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ill wade into this and give my two cents.
True there is always a root cause for most things eg when you jump out of a 20 story window you will DIE and the cause of that is GRAVITY. Now knowing that if you still jump out will that change anything? No you will still die. Wjat need to be done is that if you jump have a bungee cord or have a parachute.
The problem with TS isnt that he is 5 who lusts after 7 and isnt interested in 4.
It only a problem if he doesnt have the LONG term capacity to financially chase after and get these 7. If his salary is 20k and he send 5k chasing these girls then big deal. If he was smart he would spend 20k getting plastic surgery going to gym to change him from a 5 to a 7 and he would be able to spend less money.
The problem from my understanding is he is in the category of earning 3k and spending 2k chasing these girls and not getting very far and then hence this sad post to get consolation rather than looking for real practical solutions.
Telling him to look for root causes doesnt really help or change much if he is unable or unwilling to make the changes to action a solution eg if the cause is low self esteem, well knowing that is the cause wont change anything unless he has the ability to change himself, standing in front of a mirror seeing a low value male staring back and telling yourself you are a handsome man 20-50-100 times hoping positive self affirmation will improve ones self esteem doesnt work very well
Finding the root cause of his behavior will most certainly help but only if he is willing to change. If the main reason is due to what you have mentioned: A low self-esteem, then the possible reason why he is indulging in sexual intercourse with prostitutes on a regular basis could be to boost his deflated ego and to isolate the emptiness within him albeit for a short duration hence he needs another fit soon after. The problem with most people is that they know what exactly the root cause is but is unwilling to accept and rectify it until it is too late. That is why sometimes we hear this phrase "If I could turn back the clock, I would do things differently." but would they?
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Re: I'm addicted to women's company. Spend a lot every month :(

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my pointis no need waste time finding root cause as the time spent finding cause you should be spending solving the solution.
I beg to differ. The right way is to find a solution for the root cause instead of solving the solution without even having a solution in the first place and why do you suggest him to solve the solution is bizarre to say the least.
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