[jamy]

To TS, do you know your wife's expectation of you before you marry her?
Or your wife only becomes like this after marriage?

If your wife don't want to get help together, then I would say at least save yourself.
If you divorce your wife, it is highly likely that she would get custody of the kids (if she wants them).
House would likely to be split 50/50.
You would have to pay child support for the kids, but you don't have to support her.

Many people have misconception of woman charter that the man always pay. This is not true. The man has to pay alimony only if the spouse is not working after marriage, which is not the case for TS.